Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are so You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be
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- Author：Rachel Hollis
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Reviews
Leanna
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A good tool for a lot of women who have questions and insecurities about being a mother， wife， daughter， employee， friend。 We all feel them。 It is told from the perspective of an entrepreneurial， Christian woman from California。 Overall enjoyable although it was not fully relatable for me。
Carrie
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Inspiring from start to finish。 Yes， there were things to disagree with， like any self help book。 But I found her determination inspiring。 I appreciated her authenticity when sharing the harder parts of her story and loved the “what helped me” tips at the end of each chapter。 I loved how she stayed true to herself and spoke what she believed as truth。 I came away with many aha’s and felt inspired to change some things in my life because of her book。 I consider this the goal of self help genre an Inspiring from start to finish。 Yes， there were things to disagree with， like any self help book。 But I found her determination inspiring。 I appreciated her authenticity when sharing the harder parts of her story and loved the “what helped me” tips at the end of each chapter。 I loved how she stayed true to herself and spoke what she believed as truth。 I came away with many aha’s and felt inspired to change some things in my life because of her book。 I consider this the goal of self help genre and in that regard she nailed it for me。 。。。more
Ashley Ewert
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"Your dream is worth fighting got， and while you're not in control of what life throws at you， you are in control of the fight。" pg。 68 "Your dream is worth fighting got， and while you're not in control of what life throws at you， you are in control of the fight。" pg。 68 。。。more
Sheila
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I am listening to this book off the library app because her most controversial issue April 2021 has my interest peaked about her。 Here's what I am thinking so far。 （Need to read her other books too）。I want to keep this self-help book in perspective。 Is Religion or Christian Publisher a Problem？ For Me No。 It's easy for me to take it away。 Is Hollis Self-Absorbed Yes I believe she is but， I felt that from the cover。 I do believe life around her has created her self-absorbtion and or her experienc I am listening to this book off the library app because her most controversial issue April 2021 has my interest peaked about her。 Here's what I am thinking so far。 （Need to read her other books too）。I want to keep this self-help book in perspective。 Is Religion or Christian Publisher a Problem？ For Me No。 It's easy for me to take it away。 Is Hollis Self-Absorbed Yes I believe she is but， I felt that from the cover。 I do believe life around her has created her self-absorbtion and or her experiences。 I believe it is a way she has processed things。 Let's keep our focus on what she is saying/sharing in this book though。Hollis is talking about Lies we tell ourselves and overcoming those Lies doing better for ourselves。I do believe Hollis strives to be genuine but ourselves do get in the way at times， our own desires， needs and wants。 If we reach more money than we ever have thought we would or could earn， it can begin to change a person。I believe when Hollis achieved money the accomplishment was purchasing that purse as that was her own achievement to herself or success but then I was hoping she would share how to stay grounded and or relatable。 （I think she lacks that here）。 This book is compared to You Are A Bad Ass and I have read that book too and I do see similarities and I do agree that You Are A Bad Ass was done much better however in Hollis defense she has some good tips/advice but she didn't always word it correctly but I don't say everything correctly either and I never mean to come across insensitive or as though I am better than others then I ask did Hollis mean to come across this way？ （Must read her future books）。I do agree that we should Value ourselves and or showing up for ourselves and or most importantly self-love but has Hollis come across as privileged？ Does Hollis need Humility and Self-Awareness？Maybe a little more self reflecting and or a better PR person or editor is needed？ I know I would need help with wording and grammar so I wouldn't come across as a ass hat because I do believe we all can sound like a ass hat now and then。 I do agree that people who have money or come into more money it can change who they grow to become which then they no longer see or think like the rest of us。 I mean $8。00 becomes not a lot of money to them but， if they had no food or lack there of it would be a lot of money。 （They lose some form of connection）。I do agree that our self or our journey does fall more towards our own perception or fear and I do agree we cannot allow fear to hold us back but， we also need to know our boundaries and or limitations and when we say I'm done， this is enough or I’m satisfied。 Does that make us failures？ Perhaps to some but， what does it say to ourselves？ We can’t live thinking what others are thinking of us。We have to be satisfied or content with ourselves right？I do admire Hollis for her perseverance it takes a lot to kick our own ass sometimes。 Again Is Hollis privileged？ Yes and I do believe she knows this and that is why I believe she loses her words at times when she is sharing。Again， I think it gets harder the more money you make to stay relatable to others and remember where you came from， stay connected and or to put into words your story。 Eventually the good （money） will put the old life into just memories unless you make it a point to not forget and consistently appreciate what you have。I do believe we all have a dark side and or selfish tendencies， it's balancing them that I believe becomes difficult with the money and status that begins rolling in。 Should we give ourselves Permission to quit？ I think it truly depends on Health and individual drive or what one wants for themselves。 （contentment）I do believe when we reach goals we set for ourselves or as in Hollis case buying the purse to perhaps define that's when she was successful when I can buy that purse I will then have success。I believe many of us get thoughts like this but， just in different thoughts or ways everyone measures their success in their own way。（However don't forget where you were and how you arrived where you are now it is very important）。I do agree we all snap and or lose control。 I work in retail and employee's and customer's alike snap and or have a day just don't stay there and learn to apologize。I do believe Hollis is trying to give， share and help。I do believe she is trying to serve us positive reinforcement and I do feel she is sharing that fear keeps us small。I do believe Hollis in this book had a passion to help as many as she could。 I do appreciate when she shares someone else’s opinion of me is none of my business。 I agree because none of us can be ourselves and expect everyone to like us。 。。。more
Kathy
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A fun， easy read with lots of encouragement。 I enjoyed reading Girl， Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis as she writes in a very down to earth， relatable way。 In this memoir type book she shares 20 lies we tell ourselves and why we shouldn't。 Each lie is based on her own life experience。 The basic premise of the book is we are in charge of our lives and we are more than we have become。 I think every woman could benefit by reading this book and would relate to some of the lies we， as women， tell ours A fun， easy read with lots of encouragement。 I enjoyed reading Girl， Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis as she writes in a very down to earth， relatable way。 In this memoir type book she shares 20 lies we tell ourselves and why we shouldn't。 Each lie is based on her own life experience。 The basic premise of the book is we are in charge of our lives and we are more than we have become。 I think every woman could benefit by reading this book and would relate to some of the lies we， as women， tell ourselves。 。。。more
Tania
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Rachel is so real in this book！ I love how she shares her life story in hopes of helping other women who are struggling！！ I found her book to be very motivating！！ She also has a great sense of humor。 You will laugh， cry， and be encouraged right along side of Rachel。
Kailey Dudek
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She has a lot of good points here that can be helpful。 I went into this being iffy because of the current news and info about her and white privilege。 Her privilege is very apparent in the book， but at the same time， you can tell that she is working and trying to do better， and I can respect her for that。 People make mistakes， which is fine as long as they learn from them and do better。
Jody
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OMG！ EVERY woman needs to read this！ There is so much to learn， to laugh and to head nod when reading this。 Rachel Hollis really has you thinking about your choices and makes you excited to grow within。 LOVE， LOVE， LOVE
Eleaca Young
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I read this years ago I still remember how much I disliked it。 It felt like a bad person wrote self help。
Filipa
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Gave this book a go after having someone highly recommend it， but I'm afraid all I can do is try and prevent other people from picking it up when they could use their time in something actually enriching。 Under the guise of a message of empowerment and positivism， the author manages to perpetrate damaging socially acceptable stereotypes。 It is judgemental， glorifies materialist goals （a Louis Vuitton bag or a vacation house in Hawaii）， unhealthy relationships and mentions of God are rammed down Gave this book a go after having someone highly recommend it， but I'm afraid all I can do is try and prevent other people from picking it up when they could use their time in something actually enriching。 Under the guise of a message of empowerment and positivism， the author manages to perpetrate damaging socially acceptable stereotypes。 It is judgemental， glorifies materialist goals （a Louis Vuitton bag or a vacation house in Hawaii）， unhealthy relationships and mentions of God are rammed down your throat every other paragraph - I don't think I've ever been so close to throw a book through a window。 The most baffling to me might just be how someone who claims to have struggled with body image issues is so quick to casually engage in fat-shaming and share her recent found secret to healthy living （i。e。， no longer being fat）。 To end on a positive note， if you are looking for inspiration on how to answer the dreaded "what is your biggest flaw" interview question， the 'handicaps'-turned-to-brags throughout the book might be the best bit of 'self-help' you'll get from it。 。。。more
Abby Schmitt
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I googled Rachel Hollis half way through the chapter about her husband。 Low and behold， they got divorced in 2020。 And idk what happened behind the scenes buttttttt the “he was terrible until i spoke up and now i fixed him” story was honestly concerning。 Then the rest of the book felt like BS to me。 Yes， it is a great reminder to be confident， follow your goals， and be kind and open to others。 But I felt a disconnect。 It was an easy read and pleasant but don’t expect this to be the change you’ve I googled Rachel Hollis half way through the chapter about her husband。 Low and behold， they got divorced in 2020。 And idk what happened behind the scenes buttttttt the “he was terrible until i spoke up and now i fixed him” story was honestly concerning。 Then the rest of the book felt like BS to me。 Yes， it is a great reminder to be confident， follow your goals， and be kind and open to others。 But I felt a disconnect。 It was an easy read and pleasant but don’t expect this to be the change you’ve been looking for 。。。more
Louisa
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I hated this so， so much。 The author’s tone came across condescending with her “you guys”， “girl”， “sister” language。 With such short， empty chapters， filled with weird anecdotes that sometimes really didn’t correlate to the message， there were maybe one or two things that I appreciated and nothing more。
Jamie
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Girl， u suck。
Emily Christine
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"What is it about me that made you think I want to be relatable" she said that while laughing on a tiktok。 AND THEN she blamed her team for her tone deafness。 Oh。 And she calls the woman who is her housekeeper "the woman who cleans my toilets"。 Someone this pretentious can't have anything good to add to the mindfulness and self love conversation which is what this supposedly is "What is it about me that made you think I want to be relatable" she said that while laughing on a tiktok。 AND THEN she blamed her team for her tone deafness。 Oh。 And she calls the woman who is her housekeeper "the woman who cleans my toilets"。 Someone this pretentious can't have anything good to add to the mindfulness and self love conversation which is what this supposedly is 。。。more
D
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I admit I am showing my age with this one -- I had not heard of Rachel Hollis or her blog。 She is a social influencer and what I would consider a true millennial。 Being a Gen-Xer， much of her advice in this book was either just too late for me or made me think "no duh"。 Though， I did like many of her themes as they are good reminders -- do good in the world， don't try to be everyone else's perfect， be true to yourself and your faith， and put your family first。 That said， I enjoyed this book much I admit I am showing my age with this one -- I had not heard of Rachel Hollis or her blog。 She is a social influencer and what I would consider a true millennial。 Being a Gen-Xer， much of her advice in this book was either just too late for me or made me think "no duh"。 Though， I did like many of her themes as they are good reminders -- do good in the world， don't try to be everyone else's perfect， be true to yourself and your faith， and put your family first。 That said， I enjoyed this book much more as an autobiography and the insight into this profession， her life story， and this generation。 I listened to this as an audiobook and the author is the narrator and I did feel like I was just sitting in her living room having a chat -- it is written in a very personable way。 。。。more
shahrzad
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Well I can't deny that I don't talk to myself like that most of the times。 And I do learn one big lesson from this book and that was don't lie to yourself because your mind get used to it unconsciously。 But there are better self help books out there。 Well I can't deny that I don't talk to myself like that most of the times。 And I do learn one big lesson from this book and that was don't lie to yourself because your mind get used to it unconsciously。 But there are better self help books out there。 。。。more
Natalie
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Girl， fix your plagiarism。 If not for that， I would have rated this 2 stars。 She is entertaining when telling stories from her own life， but she falls apart when giving advice。 Each chapter， she would get so far into telling stories that I would wonder how this related back to her original statement and intent for the chapter。 Her advice is typically vague， and she doesn't say enough that you can take out into the world to put into practice。This could have been a three star memoir had she stoppe Girl， fix your plagiarism。 If not for that， I would have rated this 2 stars。 She is entertaining when telling stories from her own life， but she falls apart when giving advice。 Each chapter， she would get so far into telling stories that I would wonder how this related back to her original statement and intent for the chapter。 Her advice is typically vague， and she doesn't say enough that you can take out into the world to put into practice。This could have been a three star memoir had she stopped pretending she could offer advice to women who were not just like her: white， married rich early on in life， and Christian。 Those are not bad things to be。 It's just that she is giving advice while having this massive blind spot。I would say her two most disappointing chapters were the ones about sex and diversity。 She would talk about how she worked to make her life full of great sex and diverse friends; however， she completely flies over how she made that possible with concrete steps。 Her sex chapter also turns into a pregnancy chapter 1/3 of the way through， and those two items do not inherently go hand-in-hand。 Her diversity chapter was shallow in that she emphatically encourages people to "reach across the lines in the sand" and how rich that has made her life; however， she completely ignores the issues surrounding why that's difficult for people to do and the actual issues drawing those lines in the first place。I won't even start on the chapter detailing the toxic relationship she had with her husband。 The power imbalance， the disrespect， and the passive aggressive behavior -- let's say I was not surprised they would divorce about 17 years later since the base of their relationship had been rotten from the start。 Look at other reviews for a more in-depth look into this。I want to like Rachel。 Part of me does， like in the chapter she talked about the highs and devastating lows of fostering children。 My heart went out to her。 However， she needs to work on citing her sources （if you want a more on that， look at the Buzzfeed article for this book） and 。 。 。 well， clean up how she is acting on her social media。"What made you think I wanted to be RELATEABLE？" - Rachel HollisLady， I don't know， this whole book？ 。。。more
Josée
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L'auteure convoque ses croyances chrétiennes à de nombreuses reprises et verse parfois dans le "fat-shaming"。 Quand on arrive à faire abstraction de cela， il y a certains éléments intéressants à retenir。 L'auteure convoque ses croyances chrétiennes à de nombreuses reprises et verse parfois dans le "fat-shaming"。 Quand on arrive à faire abstraction de cela， il y a certains éléments intéressants à retenir。 。。。more
Vero Narvaez
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A must-read for women （and anyone who feels an obligation to be perfect）。 Many ideas and beliefs that women have to be perfect in every way make us anxious and feel like we are failing in some way。 I'm glad this kind of conversation is out with dreams and deeds。 Whether you are Christian or not， I find it very useful to be aware of the power of prayer。 A must-read for women （and anyone who feels an obligation to be perfect）。 Many ideas and beliefs that women have to be perfect in every way make us anxious and feel like we are failing in some way。 I'm glad this kind of conversation is out with dreams and deeds。 Whether you are Christian or not， I find it very useful to be aware of the power of prayer。 。。。more
Tessa
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This book is a good option if you're new to self-help books and just want to see what they're all about。 It's light， very religious based， and mostly addresses surface level issues。 This book is a good option if you're new to self-help books and just want to see what they're all about。 It's light， very religious based， and mostly addresses surface level issues。 。。。more
Jennifer Anderson
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The low rating has a lot to do with my lack of research prior to reading this book。 I was unfamiliar with the author as I don't follow social media and took the book description at face value-it does mention she has "unflinching faith" but I was not expecting the book to be centered around religion。 The irony is that after reading the book I looked to see if I had missed something in the book description and came across a controversial video she posted recently that received a lot of unwarranted The low rating has a lot to do with my lack of research prior to reading this book。 I was unfamiliar with the author as I don't follow social media and took the book description at face value-it does mention she has "unflinching faith" but I was not expecting the book to be centered around religion。 The irony is that after reading the book I looked to see if I had missed something in the book description and came across a controversial video she posted recently that received a lot of unwarranted backlash。 I almost want to change my rating of this book because ultimately I love the underlying message-minus the heavy religious references-if you work hard， set goals and keep striving to achieve them you can be successful。 She has taken risks， worked hard， encountered numerous setbacks and kept pushing to achieve her goals and should be able to enjoy the rewards without shame。 。。。more
Tiffany
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Whew boy， I have many opinions about this one。 HahaI will begin by saying that I read this book for the sole reason that there is controversy surrounding it and my curiosity was peaked。I'll give Rachel credit for being a good story teller and there were occasionally small nuggets of advice where I was like， "okay that's a pretty good point。" Overall， however， I found this book to be extremely shallow and self-serving。 She very obviously loves herself and is proud of herself。 She told us this at Whew boy， I have many opinions about this one。 HahaI will begin by saying that I read this book for the sole reason that there is controversy surrounding it and my curiosity was peaked。I'll give Rachel credit for being a good story teller and there were occasionally small nuggets of advice where I was like， "okay that's a pretty good point。" Overall， however， I found this book to be extremely shallow and self-serving。 She very obviously loves herself and is proud of herself。 She told us this at least 18，000 times。 She does all the work。 She runs the business。 She is exemplary and wonderful and her business is amazing and it is ALL because of her and only her and no one else。 And if she's all these things， well， there is no reason that you can't be all these things。 （*insert eyeroll*） Every chapter reeks of privilege， money， and being sheltered。The worst part of this book， in my opinion， was the story of how she met her husband。 Ladies， DO NOT MARRY SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOU LIKE TRASH AND DOES NOT EVEN CALL YOU BY NAME TO HIS FRIENDS。 I absolutely cannot believe that she made excuses for a toxic relationship and then labeled it self-help。 No。 I also really hate the notion that， "you are in control of your own life and own fate and whatever is wrong is your fault for choosing it" which is basically the premise of this entire book。 Sometimes things happen beyond anyone's control。 Sometimes your entire life gets uprooted and thrown upside down。 Sometimes there is tragedy that upends everything you've worked for and spins you in the opposite direction。 And you know what？ You can't just man up or pull yourself up by your bootstraps and make it better。 This needs to be acknowledged。 Sometimes you need to sit with your grief。 Sometimes you have to re-evaluate everything that you've worked for and thought mattered and it's okay if you decide to step back or do something different。 Muttering words of blind optimism while trying to convince yourself that you have to be and do everything and keep going no matter what is just ridiculous。Thirdly - and this may not matter to a lot of people - since Thomas Nelson is a Christian publisher and I thought （perhaps erroneously， I don't know much about her） that Rachel Hollis was a Christian， I was very surprised to find that the vast majority of this book is very unchristian。 All of the self-praise and claiming that we are the ones who have to do everything for ourselves by our own strengths is wildly anti-Biblical。 And as a final note， the word "tribe" really makes my eye twitch。 But maybe that's just me。I ALMOST FORGOT。The dedication in this book aged so well that I have to bring attention to it:"For Jen。。。by teaching us all that a real leader speaks the truth， even to her own detriment。" 🤐 。。。more
Emily
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Really connected with the first half then got a bit preachy and didn’t relate as much since I’m not a mother。 May need to pick this up again later in life！
Jennie
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Audio book read by author was really good。 I totally get the criticisms of this book， but also they didn’t bother me much。 I found her stories humorous and her points hit home。 You want to change your life？ It’s on you to do it and it’s never too late。 Don’t take no for an answer if you really are passionate about something - make goals and go after it。 Nothing earth shattering here， but so very relatable。
Teresa Christensen
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Great ReadI loved this book。 Her brutal honesty is awesome to read through。 Hearing her stories and being able to identify with so much is truly inspiring。
Hannah Pinter
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This book is about as useful as a horoscope， generic and inconsistent。 SO GLAD IT’S OVER。 Girl， skip this book。
Amber Hatch
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I wanted to like this audiobook， sadly it wasn't my cup of tea。 While there were some points that I agreed with， for the most part， this was full of what I called "humble" bragging （where someone claims to be humble but they constantly brag by saying "I'm the best at this " or bringing up the same accomplishment enough times that you want to yell out， "for goodness sakes we know already" plus this audio is extremely preachy， and I don't mean religious preachy even those she talks about god/her c I wanted to like this audiobook， sadly it wasn't my cup of tea。 While there were some points that I agreed with， for the most part， this was full of what I called "humble" bragging （where someone claims to be humble but they constantly brag by saying "I'm the best at this " or bringing up the same accomplishment enough times that you want to yell out， "for goodness sakes we know already" plus this audio is extremely preachy， and I don't mean religious preachy even those she talks about god/her creator a lot。 No， I mean preachy in the sense that she talks about something like bad habits/poor choices and yells about how you must do this and this so you don't make the same mistakes as if she has a Ph。D。 in everything。 Don't even get me started on the last chapter cause I almost stopped listening to it， seriously you are preaching in the church did you have to practically scream the whole time， I know your passionate about what you are saying but calm down。Things I had issues with:Example 1。 She frequently mentions how she’s the most organized/the hardest working/the most tenacious/ the biggest nerd you’ve ever met， blah blah blah blah， seriously we understand。Example 2。 Near constant reminders of how fabulously successful she is and I mean she brags like nobody's business about this。 She repeats the same thing multiple times as if her audience will be amazed and in more awe every time she says it。Example 3。 The story of how she met her husband。 She says that people may have an issue with her sharing it and that it isn’t meant for it to be used to condone an unhealthy relationship。 But。。。。she married the man from her super unhealthy relationship。 I mean she is preaching about don’t marry the guy who “brings you to bars and ignores you while he hits on other women，” “only calls you at night when he’s been drinking but ignores you during the day，” or “give your virginity to because you don’t know how else to keep him interested。” I mean her ex broke up with her then called her the next day to see how she is and she suddenly had the epiphany that he wasn't good enough for her and told him to never call her again or come see her， and what does he do ignores her and go to her house cause he suddenly realized his mistake？ Cue happy ending music！！！ I mean this story is complete hypocrisy and giving false hope to people in unhealthy relationships that their will turn out the same way。Example 4。 Her tip of "here's how to do it: just do it。 Like if you are "Feeling unhappy？ Just stop！" You don't want to be stressed anymore， well then don't feel stress。 Want to lose weight， well it is sooooo simple all you have to do is eat fewer calories than you burn， if you have any medical reasons why it might be hard to lose weight it's no big deal。 You are depressed， stop being negative all the time。 Also， other types of platitudes throughout the chapters， and it's so grrrrr。 Like people can't just snap their fingers to fix their issues， no one is 100% in control of their own life。Example 5。 Her constant need to tell her audience that "no I didn't want to tell your this cause it's embarrassing， emotionally draining， etc。" But， she did it anyways to truly show how many mistakes she made and how "simple" it was to fix it。 Please girl you went into writing this book as a self-help book， of course， you were going to have to share otherwise there would be no point in the book。 Stop asking for pity。。。。Enough ranting， those are just some of the things I don't like about the book。 The only positive was when she graciously told about her issues with her father， the sad loss of her brother， and the whole adopting/foster situation; and how that affected her （I do believe those parts were listening to。） 。。。more
Wendy
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Maybe 3。5⭐️。 A self help book that promotes showing up for yourself， and not spreading yourself to thin。 A quick easy read with some good ideas， but was not my favorite。 Some of her experiences could be used as a defense for promoting unhealthy relationships and lifestyles。 Was just ok for me。
Melissa
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I think I may be one of only people I know that wasn't crazy about this book。 The chapter on adoption was tough for me as it was not very compassionate towards birth mothers。 I also didn't feel she is relatable in person as she implies in the book。 I love her honesty and vulnerability though。 I think I may be one of only people I know that wasn't crazy about this book。 The chapter on adoption was tough for me as it was not very compassionate towards birth mothers。 I also didn't feel she is relatable in person as she implies in the book。 I love her honesty and vulnerability though。 。。。more
Jana
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